Bulent

Well, folks, I don't know what to say. I went out with Bulent tonight who really did turn out to be a really nice guy. I came home from work, took my make up off and was preparing to have a nice time just watching the tube and relaxing. At about 8 p.m., Bulent called me by surprise and said he was in my area and asked me if I wanted to meet up with him for drinks. Being the lazy piece of crap that I am, I first said no. Then I thought, "oh, what the hell", and I slapped on some make up, got dressed and met him. He turned out to be a nice person but the conversation didn't exactly flow in my opinion nor was I attracted to him all that much - which is not to say that he wasn't attractive. But I just wasn't feeling it, if ya know what I mean. We talked about religion (he is an atheist and I'm spiritual/agnostic). We didn't quite agree with each other about the subject matter. I had to bring up the age issue as well. On his profile he said that his ideal match would be between 25 to 35. He is 43. Come on! How many woman out there at the age of 20-something are even interested in a guy in his 40's? I said, "Bulent, I am 6 years older than your cut-off age. How do you feel being with me knowing that I'm in my 40s?" He answered that question diplomatically by not really answering it at all. Men are just odd creatures that I don't quite seem to understand. But here's the part where we agreed on an issue that made me think that maybe this guy is for me: He doesn't believe in getting married and that marriage is what kills most relationships. I don't know if it was that statement or the Coronas I was drinking that made him suddenly more attractive to me. Like me, he likes being in an exclusive relationship that need not necessarily lead to marriage. My God! Have I met the man of my dreams after all? I get up at 5:30 in morning and told him that it was getting late and that I really needed to start heading home. He said, "do you really feel like wrapping things up?". I had to because I need sleep to function at work. But truthfully, I did not feel as though we had much chemistry. I think that I will see him again since he and I did get along okay. But "okay" was all that it was. Anyway, I'm glad that we hung out together for a short while and sucked down some cold brews. He kissed me on the cheek and off I went. It was a pleasant evening minus any fireworks. I loved that he was so honest in his answering my questions (except the age thing). I never got the impression that he was trying hard to impress me (which impresses me). So we shall see if the next "date" is less awkward for me. God damn this dating crap is so complicated!!